It’s Your Party — I Could Snub if I Wanted To

So next week is the leavee’s 40th birthday.  A party was always assumed and it is going ahead this Saturday.

There will be a mix of people who know what’s going on and many who don’t.

On a social awkwardness scale you could compare it to visiting your in-laws for the first time at Christmas.

…When they don’t know yet that they are the new in-laws.

…But they will find out because they’re darling daughter is pregnant.

…And you really have to tell them now because otherwise its unlikely they will lend you the $5000 you need to pay off Nicki the bookie.

Well that’s how I felt about it anyway.  Until about 4 days ago.

Then suddenly another perspective switched in and suddenly I could deal with it.

This is quite likely the last time we will ever do something like this together.

This is precisely a moment where I can actually live my stated goal of demolishing this marriage with fidelity.  It’s a “walk the talk” moment.

Our friends and family liked our parties.  We were known, I think for our parties.   There was always plenty of food, vodka, toasts, sometimes some singing and music.   So few people do dinner parties nowadays but I grew up with them.  People seem to think they’re complicated fraught things and don’t bother with them.  But we did.

So it’s a celebration.  Maybe along the lines of an Irish wake or a New Orleans funeral.  Maybe, but of course it will be a secret wake for most of the people there (our kids for instance).

But it can be celebration not of what has been (how am I going to reconcile this with No Past month….  okay a bit of psychic contortion here but bear with me) but everything that has led up to this point.  Where we are right now with these beautiful children, friends, family  — it took a lot of hard work to build this.  We would have nothing to take a part and no material to use to rebuild something else without all of this.

So cheers, nazdorovye and God Grant Her Many Many Years!

Lets make it a party to remember in the best possible way.

About theleavee

I'm a father of two children. My wife is going to move out by the looks of it.... Woops... Rather, that's what she said when I started writing this blog. That was back in 2011. So she has moved out and I have primary custody.
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