Category Archives: Practical

It’s Okay; He’s a Single Parent

I’m a mid-forties old male.  The Leaver stayed home for years, so that, nominally I could concentrate on my career.  I say nominally because for many years the Leaver’s life took up a lot of attention and energy but that … Continue reading

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Welcome All! We’re Serving Pity Turducken, This Year!

“How did that happen!?”Asked my sister And rather more pointedly  “Why are you spending Christmas with her!” from my girlfriend. By the context and the gratuitous use of exclamation marks you may well have already surmised that the personal pronoun … Continue reading

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Separation/Divorce Agreement Part II — Your Child’s Future in 500 Words or Less

So here’s your child’s upbringing as brought to you by a standard divorce agreement: S/he go to school S/he on sport teams S/he go on a few trips S/he go to university Once completed university they are no longer childrenand … Continue reading

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Separation/Divorce Agreement — Part 1

After all the schisms, projectile crockery, navel gazing eventually you have to come to a contractual agreement.  You have to break-up the partnership and put it all down on paper. You think you sign your life away to a mortgage?  … Continue reading

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We (Wii?) Made It

Barry Manilow references aside, and all my screaming spider senses that say don’t pat yourself on the back, don’t say anything, you’ll jinx it (hopefully cancelled out by by me saying to the kids as they marched off to their … Continue reading

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More Advice to Leaver

Continuing the previous posts here are some humble suggestions for any Leaver and I emphasize any.  Many of these the Leaver in my particular case has followed, others she hasn’t and others, she has adopted with time.  On the whole … Continue reading

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Probation and a Plate of Cookies — Advice for Leaver Parents

Dear Leaver’s Everywhere. Going through this whole thing — and acknowledging that this whole thing will never end — I’ll throw some dashes into the run on sentence that is life and string together a few observations on what are … Continue reading

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socks

How many size sixes can there be? There is something that suggests the absolute when you think size.  The point is to create a standard to which a foot conforms that crosses apparel– socks, shoes, boots genre — running, dress, … Continue reading

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Apportioned Parenting — Can you Dig It?

First couple of weeks of September, first two weeks of school: Breakfast, lunches, dinners and much culinary improvising. Birthday party. Freezing and eight year old’s warts. Bizzarre (honestly, very bizzarre) taxman panic. Cold, cold sore and a migrane. Footwear and … Continue reading

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Honest, Some of My Best Friends Are Lawyers

When basic human interaction is swamped in bile.  When the person who is sitting across from you has been warped beyond recognition by countless semi-translucent layers of painful memories.   When all hope has been bled. When even the most basic … Continue reading

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