Category Archives: What’s Worked

The Nobel Prize of Vanity — Don’t Throw Out Your Love Letters (3 of 3)

That’s not to say, I wouldn’t love to meet the women those girls, who wrote those love letters, have become. If indeed they are still with us.  I’m coming up to my middle forties.  That some of these people might … Continue reading

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Why a Tweet is Not a Love Letter (Don’t Throw Out Your Love Letters Part II)

Woe, oh young generation! Where are your love letters in the age of pocket tweeps and tablet bluzzes! I don’t doubt that there is as much ardour today as ever — thumbed and zapped, snapped and swiped.  And all of it preserved … Continue reading

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The God is in the Guitar

Home. Living room, sofa. What a gift the guitar. And it really is a gift that I received, at the time when I was young much to my chagrin really. I didn’t practice much then, and not surprisingly I’m really … Continue reading

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Pavlov’s Dog Rips Freud A New One or On Unruly Digestion and That Thang

If there has been one great comfort in the trials of the past year, it’s confirming the fallacy that lies at the heart of classic psychology. Needless to say, I have neither the resources nor the professional wherewithal to carry out research, … Continue reading

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More Advice to Leaver

Continuing the previous posts here are some humble suggestions for any Leaver and I emphasize any.  Many of these the Leaver in my particular case has followed, others she hasn’t and others, she has adopted with time.  On the whole … Continue reading

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Probation and a Plate of Cookies — Advice for Leaver Parents

Dear Leaver’s Everywhere. Going through this whole thing — and acknowledging that this whole thing will never end — I’ll throw some dashes into the run on sentence that is life and string together a few observations on what are … Continue reading

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The Tell – Part 1

Crisis tends to bring out the essentials of what it means to be human and what it means to be the specific human being you are.  The communication of crisis, the urge to share the crisis and the urge to … Continue reading

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