Tag Archives: Children

We (Wii?) Made It

Barry Manilow references aside, and all my screaming spider senses that say don’t pat yourself on the back, don’t say anything, you’ll jinx it (hopefully cancelled out by by me saying to the kids as they marched off to their … Continue reading

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More Advice to Leaver

Continuing the previous posts here are some humble suggestions for any Leaver and I emphasize any.  Many of these the Leaver in my particular case has followed, others she hasn’t and others, she has adopted with time.  On the whole … Continue reading

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Probation and a Plate of Cookies — Advice for Leaver Parents

Dear Leaver’s Everywhere. Going through this whole thing — and acknowledging that this whole thing will never end — I’ll throw some dashes into the run on sentence that is life and string together a few observations on what are … Continue reading

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Livin’ the Dream without Jet Packs or Tube Food

For someone who was born in the 1840’s and lived seventy years, the world of their adult life was almost completely unrecognizable compared to the one of their childhood.  We think we live in a period of monumental change but … Continue reading

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Communication, Intent and Loose Wings

My stomach is churning, palms sweaty. I try to not look. And then I make myself look so that I don’t feel so cowardly. It is my dining room table.  I’m talking to my wife. We are talking civilly.  It … Continue reading

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socks

How many size sixes can there be? There is something that suggests the absolute when you think size.  The point is to create a standard to which a foot conforms that crosses apparel– socks, shoes, boots genre — running, dress, … Continue reading

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Apportioned Parenting — The Ripoff

No matter what I do that I know will be hurtful to her, and no matter how much I find hurtful in what the Leaver says and does I still can’t get over a deep, over-abiding sense of pity. Now … Continue reading

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Apportioned Parenting — Can you Dig It?

First couple of weeks of September, first two weeks of school: Breakfast, lunches, dinners and much culinary improvising. Birthday party. Freezing and eight year old’s warts. Bizzarre (honestly, very bizzarre) taxman panic. Cold, cold sore and a migrane. Footwear and … Continue reading

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The Tell – Part 1

Crisis tends to bring out the essentials of what it means to be human and what it means to be the specific human being you are.  The communication of crisis, the urge to share the crisis and the urge to … Continue reading

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Lower the Bar, Then Light It

“The Libyan people are nothing, if not a resilient people.” “There is a dignity in these Somalies.  Desperate, starving, they keep their dignity even in their darkest hour.” Which of the world’s peoples are not resilient and or dignified? The … Continue reading

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