Tag Archives: Marriage

Separation/Divorce Agreement — Part 1

After all the schisms, projectile crockery, navel gazing eventually you have to come to a contractual agreement.  You have to break-up the partnership and put it all down on paper. You think you sign your life away to a mortgage?  … Continue reading

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Probation and a Plate of Cookies — Advice for Leaver Parents

Dear Leaver’s Everywhere. Going through this whole thing — and acknowledging that this whole thing will never end — I’ll throw some dashes into the run on sentence that is life and string together a few observations on what are … Continue reading

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Whiskey Sours Are Really Good. Just Try One. Believe me.

It’s the evening.  I have just seen a close friend of mine that my wife knew very well too.  She asked me how he is, I replied, “Fine.” “That’s what you say about everybody.  Your parents are ‘fine.’  John Boy is … Continue reading

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Herb, Les, Opus and Me

I work in an industry that is dominated by women and I’m in sales and marketing.  As a consequence, I interact with women on a professional basis all the time. Last week was not atypical, when I was running an … Continue reading

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Divorce, Christmas Cards and Schrodinger’s Cat

Part of the process is accepting that the Leaver is right.  She was right about everything that was wrong between us, how I was the cause of so much of her misery, that I kept her hemmed in, that we … Continue reading

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Livin’ the Dream without Jet Packs or Tube Food

For someone who was born in the 1840’s and lived seventy years, the world of their adult life was almost completely unrecognizable compared to the one of their childhood.  We think we live in a period of monumental change but … Continue reading

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Apportioned Parenting — The Ripoff

No matter what I do that I know will be hurtful to her, and no matter how much I find hurtful in what the Leaver says and does I still can’t get over a deep, over-abiding sense of pity. Now … Continue reading

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Apportioned Parenting — Can you Dig It?

First couple of weeks of September, first two weeks of school: Breakfast, lunches, dinners and much culinary improvising. Birthday party. Freezing and eight year old’s warts. Bizzarre (honestly, very bizzarre) taxman panic. Cold, cold sore and a migrane. Footwear and … Continue reading

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The Tell – Part 1

Crisis tends to bring out the essentials of what it means to be human and what it means to be the specific human being you are.  The communication of crisis, the urge to share the crisis and the urge to … Continue reading

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Lower the Bar, Then Light It

“The Libyan people are nothing, if not a resilient people.” “There is a dignity in these Somalies.  Desperate, starving, they keep their dignity even in their darkest hour.” Which of the world’s peoples are not resilient and or dignified? The … Continue reading

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