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We (Wii?) Made It

Barry Manilow references aside, and all my screaming spider senses that say don’t pat yourself on the back, don’t say anything, you’ll jinx it (hopefully cancelled out by by me saying to the kids as they marched off to their … Continue reading

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Whiskey Sours Are Really Good. Just Try One. Believe me.

It’s the evening.  I have just seen a close friend of mine that my wife knew very well too.  She asked me how he is, I replied, “Fine.” “That’s what you say about everybody.  Your parents are ‘fine.’  John Boy is … Continue reading

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Arggh, Sigh, Whew. Repeat.

The Leaver took my son out to a movie so my soon to be eleven year old daughter and I sit over coffee and tea at the local cafe. Occasionally, rarely, parenting genius strikes.  Take note, Bill Cosby (or whoever … Continue reading

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Livin’ the Dream without Jet Packs or Tube Food

For someone who was born in the 1840’s and lived seventy years, the world of their adult life was almost completely unrecognizable compared to the one of their childhood.  We think we live in a period of monumental change but … Continue reading

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Communication, Intent and Loose Wings

My stomach is churning, palms sweaty. I try to not look. And then I make myself look so that I don’t feel so cowardly. It is my dining room table.  I’m talking to my wife. We are talking civilly.  It … Continue reading

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Apportioned Parenting — The Ripoff

No matter what I do that I know will be hurtful to her, and no matter how much I find hurtful in what the Leaver says and does I still can’t get over a deep, over-abiding sense of pity. Now … Continue reading

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The Tell – Part 1

Crisis tends to bring out the essentials of what it means to be human and what it means to be the specific human being you are.  The communication of crisis, the urge to share the crisis and the urge to … Continue reading

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Lower the Bar, Then Light It

“The Libyan people are nothing, if not a resilient people.” “There is a dignity in these Somalies.  Desperate, starving, they keep their dignity even in their darkest hour.” Which of the world’s peoples are not resilient and or dignified? The … Continue reading

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What’s Worked — Prayer

As previously mentioned, I am a practicing Christian. But prayer working is not about me asking to a have the Leaver struck down by thunderbolt.  I do think that within this spectacular do-do storm that has struck our family there … Continue reading

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What’s Worked — Vanity, Three Chords and A Dream

A bit before the demolition began openly and in earnest I had set a goal of losing weight and I picked up my guitar.  Distractions that were escapes and life lines to the corporeal.  It is easy to get trapped … Continue reading

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